20 March 2025

Supporting a partner with prostate cancer can be a challenging and emotional experience. Partners so often play a key role in helping their loved ones make treatment decisions, navigate health care settings, manage the side effects, and maintain their sense of normalcy.

In this article, we look at the role of a carer and provide practical advice about navigating some of the challenges that arise.

PCFA’s Specialist Nursing Service and Counselling Service is also available to partners and carers of men diagnosed with prostate cancer. If you need support, call our team on 1800 22 00 99.

Your role in his cancer experience 

Your involvement in your partner's treatment depends on his needs, your relationship, and your capacity to help. Each situation is unique, but there are several ways you can support him: 

  • Communication: Engage in open conversations and listen to his concerns. 
  • Daily care: Assist with bathing, dressing, grooming, and household chores. 
  • Meal preparation: Ensure he has nutritious meals. 
  • Transportation: Provide rides to appointments and treatments. 
  • Coordination: Help manage appointments and keep track of medical information. 
  • Emotional support: Offer emotional and spiritual support. 
  • Medication management: Help keep track of medications, scripts and monitor symptoms. 

Making decisions 

As a partner, you may want to be involved in decision-making about his care. It's important to respect his autonomy while supporting him by gathering information about treatment options and helping him make informed decisions.  

Attending appointments 

Helping your partner stay organised for medical appointments is vital. Keep track of necessary documents like My Wellbeing Plan, prepare questions for the healthcare team, and take notes during consultations. This can help ensure that important information is not forgotten. 

During treatment 

Treatment and its side effects can be demanding. You may need to take on additional responsibilities at home and possibly adjust your work schedule to provide care. Joining a support group (partners can also join most groups) can offer practical tips and emotional support from others in similar situations. 

Dealing with side effects 

Prostate cancer treatments often come with side effects that can affect both of you: 

  • Fatigue: Encourage activity, a healthy diet and ensure he gets plenty of rest. 
  • Hormone therapy side effects: Support a healthy lifestyle to manage weight gain, muscle loss, and mood changes. 
  • Sex and intimacy: Cancer treatment can impact your sex life and intimacy. Open communication is key to maintaining a strong relationship. Discuss your feelings and explore new ways to be intimate, such as planning date nights or enjoying non-sexual physical affection. 

Your feelings 

It's normal to experience a range of emotions, including joy, love, anger, frustration, and guilt. Recognize that these feelings are valid and seek support when needed. Managing your emotions is crucial for your well-being and your ability to care for your partner. 

Managing stress and anxiety 

Caring for someone with prostate cancer can be stressful. It's important to look after yourself by exercising, practicing relaxation techniques, and seeking professional help if needed. Taking time out for yourself can help you recharge and maintain your own health. If you are feeling distressed call a PCFA Nurse on 1800 22 00 99 or if you need urgent help, call Lifeline on 13 11 44 or Beyond Blue on 1300 22 46 36. 

Looking after yourself 

Self-care is essential. Don't hesitate to ask for and accept help from others. Develop coping skills, take time out to relax, and ensure you maintain your physical health by getting enough sleep, eating well, and staying active. 

Supporting a partner with prostate cancer is a demanding but rewarding role. By staying informed, maintaining open communication, and looking after your own well-being, you can provide the best possible support for your loved one.  

Remember, you are not alone—reach out to PCFA, support groups and healthcare professionals for guidance and assistance.  

For more information, visit our Partners, Families and Carers Information page here: www.prostate.org.au/pcfa-nursing-and-support/information-for-partners-family-and-carers/